How to Keep Things in Perspective

Do petty things bother and stress you? How about the bigger things? What can you do about them? Read on to find out.

Things like your child not having done homework or losing a duplicate key of your car may disturb you immensely. Keep them in a certain perspective that you will return to and handle them in the right way. Once you have done that, flow along during the day with cheerfulness at work.

How about the bigger things like your wife falling sick or the roof of your home having a bad leak? These things will have to be dealt with also. Take preliminary actions like taking your wife to the doctor or contacting a plumber to come and take a look at the roof leak. You cannot let these things ruin your whole day. You have taken action, and so rest in peace. The solutions are on the way, and you keep them in perspective, which may be easier said than done.

But try it - you may even share with a colleague at work and gradually focus on your work tasks for a good many hours and then take a leave an hour earlier to commit to your problems and make them look better for you.

The wife may be feeling better after an afternoon nap. The plumber will have looked at the leak and accordingly, he would tell you how much he would charge for fixing it. These are some of the ways to work out problems - big or small without taking in stress or pressure.

It may not always be your perspective that you have to rely on because if friends, colleagues or loved ones provide better perspectives, you are free to share those.

Your children are always clashing, arguing and fighting with each other while they are at home. Your wife suggests to buy them individual tablets and then by browsing over the web, they can be busy learning new stuff. It's her perspective but a good one that you cannot ignore in the modern day.

You will research on the web about children's tablets and if you find them at reasonable rates, yes, one of these days, you will buy them to stop and put an end to sibling rivalry.

Another instance could be an argument with your wife for using her car and for not refilling it with gas. It goes on for many days. You go grumpy to the office, and a kind colleague asks your problem. You confess to him everything. Well, your colleague helps you to understand that since you are borrowing your wife's car for errands, it is rightful of her to expect her car's gas tank to be refilled if you are the last person to use it for the day.

It is your colleague's perspective but can be an eye-opener for you. You understand how selfish you have been and would like to borrow your colleague's solution and apologize to your wife and make it a point that if you are the last person to use your wife's car for the day, you will definitely refill her gas tank. Peace prevails in the family.

Summing up, this is how you can deal with big or small matters keeping them in definite perspectives. They may be your own or shared by the good people in your life. Gotcha?

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The Most Important of All Human Qualities Is a Sense of Hope

 It's interesting to observe that some people fray under the pressure of experience, but eventually learn they're called to mend their life along the way, whereas for others this experience is not liberating. Like Humpty Dumpty, they have a great fall and apparently are unable to learn new things or to unlearn old ones. Consequently, to be a human being is, one wonders, to find the nectar available to us in our own journey. But lots of people pretend that they already know everything they need to know.

It is really incredible that in this day and age human beings remain as foolish as ever they were. Meanwhile, let's remember that the apostle Paul warned us, "be transformed by the renewing of your mind" (Rm. 12:2). He thought about our interior life. I do believe that the most important task in our lives is to make connections, that is, to make relations. Would there be another way to learn?

We live in a materialistic society and are trained from our earliest days to be acquisitive. No doubt, this materialistic outlook has seriously influenced our education. The other day, someone told me with sadness, "the only thing people are interested in today is earning more money." It seems that Mammon is worshipped as never before.

We have the task to live a good life without excuses. Although the moral implication of the attitudes of modern man is daunting, this should not dilute, or block, our search for companions for our journey. It is we who are responsible after all. So, it's foolish to blame others for our failures. The most important of all human qualities is a sense of hope. A sense of hope may take various forms, but the effect is always the same. It's only natural for healthy beings to look forward to something better.

Do you remember the Lilliputians and their neighbors attack each other because they couldn't agree which end to break an egg? Maybe aren't we all living like that? This is one of the chief functions of satire and irony. They enable us to see that many of our actions are comic or absurd. We are always reminded by good mentors that a happy and fulfilling life is not really far removed from ourselves.

The sense of hope must be single out as man's most important quality because it is associated with life itself. There's no future for human beings without hope.

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How to Change Your Life by Changing Your Thinking

"No pessimist ever discovered the secrets of the stars, or sailed to an uncharted land, or opened a new heaven to the human spirit." - Helen Keller

Depending on where you are living, you could be waking up to spring daffodils and birdsong or, you may be shoveling out from the latest snowfall. Sometimes it feels as though nothing is happening and that today is just a repeat of yesterday. But, whatever your circumstances, remember, this too shall pass. Change is just around the corner.

How can you make the most out of what is or isn't happening in your life at this time? You may not be able to change your circumstances but how could you change your attitude toward your circumstances? What if you were to flip whatever you're telling yourself about your circumstances and re-frame it so that it empowers you? For instance, try removing the words, should, could, can't or never from your self-talk. Replace these with words that build you up rather than tear you down.

We are all engaged in too much negative self-talk. Just look around and you will see it reflected back in the world. The more we focus and talk about everything that is wrong in the world, the more we collectively seed the thought pool of lack and limitation. It's this all or nothing thinking that keeps us stuck in this endless pattern.

Wouldn't it be more fun to feast on thoughts and words that accentuate the positive in our lives? We can all do this by paying attention to what we think and say. As thoughts come up in your mind, notice how you feel. You can tell by the way you feel if your thoughts are uplifting or taking you in a downward spiral of negativity.

Watch what you say. Your words contain powerful energy. Whatever you say out loud acts like a boomerang and comes straight back to you. The point is, you have the power to choose in each moment which path you want to travel through life on. You don't have to go it alone. Find others who are stepping off the beaten path to support you. You could start a book group or join a group with others who may be interested personal growth. You can start right now to plant new seeds of positive thoughts then water them daily with positive affirmations.

You can change your life. One thought at a time.

Nancy Bishop is a Life Change Coach providing a menu of coaching programs serving women at midlife who want to blend their passions with purpose. Visit her website http://www.yourlifeyourway.com for more information and to subscribe to her monthly newsletter.

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